DLM is built around pairs of people who already know each other, so we don't see a lot of abuse — but you have a private text channel with your buddy via request reasons and notes, and that channel can be misused. Here's what to do if it is.

What counts as "report this"

Anything that violates the Terms of Service. In practice:

  • Threats or harassment
  • Sexual content or content that's inappropriate for the relationship
  • Spam or scams (rare in a pair context, but possible)
  • Content that's unlawful in your country

How to report

Every UGC surface in DLM has a Report button:

  • When you receive a request (as a Key Holder), there's a "Report this message" link at the bottom of the approval screen.
  • When you receive a buddy note (as a Blocker, on the green Approved or black Denied screen), there's a "Report this message" link below the note.
  • From the Inbox list, long-press a request and tap Report from the context menu.

What happens when you report

  1. A report sheet opens. Pick a category (Abusive, Threatening, Spam, Inappropriate, Other) and optionally add detail.
  2. Tap Submit. We take a snapshot of the offending text at that moment — even if the other person later deletes their account, the evidence is preserved for the moderation queue.
  3. You see a confirmation: "Thanks. We'll review within 24 hours."
  4. The success screen offers a Block & unpair button. Tap it if you want this person out of your DLM forever.

What "Block & unpair" actually does

  • You and the reported user are immediately unpaired.
  • A block record is added on the server. Even if they generate a fresh pairing code in the future and you accidentally enter it, the pairing will refuse with "Blocked relationship".
  • You're returned to the pairing screen, ready to pair with someone else.

Note that unpairing alone (without reporting) does not add a block. If you want a clean unpair (e.g. you and a partner are switching to different buddies for personal reasons), use Settings → Disconnect, not Block & unpair.

Our moderation SLA

Every report is reviewed by a human within 24 hours. Outcomes range from a private warning to permanent account termination depending on severity. We may also remove the specific content from our records.

Rate limit

You can file up to 20 reports per hour. Above that you'll be temporarily rate-limited (an anti-abuse measure — sustained mass-reporting is usually itself abusive).